There are lots of things that I like that are traditionally considered feminine. For example: big poofy white wedding dresses. There are lots of things of things that I like that are traditionally considered masculine. Like pipe tobacco smoke (which is because I have memories of my dad smoking a pipe when I was a really little kid and he played with us a lot).
I don’t reject wearing things, or decorating my house with them, because they fit one gender role or another. I simply don’t care about gender roles; if I like something, I wear it, regardless of whether it fits with society’s conventions or not. I intend to get married in a big poofy wedding dress, and if that doesn’t fit with your image of me, then you don’t know me very well.
So when it comes to the subject of purses: I just don’t like the way they look. I don’t carry one because it’s a visual that I don’t like, regardless of what the gender role of it is. If I carry a purse, I look like an old lady, or a soccer mom, which has a lot to do with the purse in conjunction with the size of my butt. It just doesn’t look right on me.
amen sister! *8-) a date that i met online told me that i dressed too much like a guy, that i was pretty and would look nice in some really feminine apparel. alrighty, i won’t be completely insulted since we were just getting to know each other, but that’s DEFINITELY not me. i explained that i don’t go clothes shopping by gender – i look at clothes from all over – but that it turns out that most of what i like happens to be from the “men’s” department of stores. then i also explained i wasn’t dressing like a guy, i was dressing like a Lori.
and i’m with ya as far as the purse thing goes – i either don’t have enough stuff to warrant carrying one, or i have too much and grab the messenger bag or backpack.