Kathy Sierra, hate comments, and women bloggers

I’ve avoided blogging about this because it’s very difficult to explain, really. I’ll try to keep it really short:

Kathy Sierra is a tech guru who got her start in Java, published some really popular books, and became well-known in the tech community for her ideas about technology and writing user-friendly web applications. She writes a popular blog called Creating Passionate Users, and speaks regularly at industry events. She was a keynote speaker at SXSW, a panel I attended. I’ve been subscribed to her site since last year, when Rich and Jerrod saw her at SXSW and raved about her when they got back.

Over the past several weeks, Kathy has, like several prominent female technogeeks before her, become the target of anonymous personal abuse that rose to the level of criminal threats of violence and murder. The reasons for why that occurred aren’t terribly clear, because Kathy’s about the closest thing to sunshine and puppies that you can get.

But the basic sequence of events seems to be this – some high-profile tech geeks who are more cynical and caustic got together and created a site called “meankids.org” to talk smack about their fellow wonks in the technology world. Kathy and some other women she knew were common targets of their cynicism and abuse, partly because they are women. This online sandbox for maliciousness bred more meanness in the forums and comments of the site as anonymous readers stepped up the abuse to increasing levels.

(Gee, that sounds familiar. I wonder where I’ve seen that happen before? Oh, yeah. I remember, we have our own version of this kind of virulent crap here in Indiana.)

When the women complained, the abuse increased even more, to the level of violent threats posted in anonymous comments on the abuse sites, and on Kathy’s site. The level of the threats were such that Kathy began to feel unsafe, and even canceled a prominent speaking engagement because of it. After she wrote about it on her blog, discussion of the whole incident has exploded across the internet.

One of the interesting things that has come out of this is discussion from numerous prominent women in the tech industry, who have come out with their own revelations of this happening to them. There is, it seems, a systemic problem in the industry.

I’ve been following the story for the last several days, mainly because all the big name web designers who’s blogs I read have weighed in, because either Kathy or the mean kids are their friends. But what made me actually decide to comment on the whole issue is this small quote from a BBC interview of Kathy on the threats she received:

She also thinks it could be time to re-examine whether the blogosphere needs to be completely uncensored.

“There is an unwritten rule in the blogosphere that it is wrong to delete nasty comments. It suggests that you can’t take criticism but now there is a sense that this is nonsense,” she said.

I happened to agree with that sentiment – I’ve practiced it for quite a while. I get 5-10 comments a day that are basically anti-gay trash directed at me. Most of the time, they’re caught in my spam filter (I have some unique keywords entered to catch them) and I simply delete them. Occasionally one or two will slip through live, but I usually delete them pretty quickly. Lately, though, the number of vitriolic posts and anti-gay comments has increased pretty drastically – it’s about double what it’s been in the past, so I have to monitor the comments more closely.

As far as I’m concerned, my website is my real estate. If you visit and decide to plant some flowers in my garden, that’s awesome; you’re always welcome back. If you visit and you graffiti my house, you’re not welcome and your contributions will be removed. Just like a newspaper that chooses not to publish every letter to the editor, I’ll choose to publish what I think adds substance.

It’s not a free speech issue as far as I’m concerned – you only have free speech in a public setting. My website isn’t a public space, it’s my space. No one’s stopping you from starting your own blog, or standing on a street corner preaching, or otherwise speaking out in public places. But you can’t come to my house and insult me and expect to stay.

For the past several weeks I’ve had a post rolling around in my head about my feelings about homophobia and anti-gay hatred and abuse, and how my feelings have developed and changed over the past 20 years that I’ve been “out of the closet.” Sometime soon I need to actually sit down and write that post, when I have a bit of extra time.

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Twitter

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Shorter review: Simple, and seemingly frivolous web communication tool. But I can see it really working as a fun, handy IM/mobile texting tool for my friends, if I can only herd all of them onto it.

What Twitter is: It’s a really simple, public blog. You post short (less than 140 characters) messages about what you’re doing right now. The messages display on the site, and get sent to your friends, via the web, IM and text messages – whichever they’ve set up. You can send messages to twitter from you mobile phone or IM.

Anil Dash put it much better back in February:

Twitter is a simple service that lets you send simple status update messages to your friends via SMS, IM, or a very basic web interface. Those messages are then sent to everyone who follows your updates, using any of the communications methods available. Simply put, it’s a buddy list or reply-to-all form of group communication for media which didn’t really have them. And Twitter lowers the threshold of participation to being just a straightforward prompted text area.

I discovered Twitter about 3 months ago, and even had a little twitter blurb on my site for a while. Since SXSW I’ve been on frequently and have a number of people I keep up with on the service. Twitter was a huge deal at SXSW – they had giant screens set up in the hallways and people would post little messages about what they were doing/thinking in the panels they attended, where they were going for lunch, etc.
That was pretty frivolous. It’s the mobile aspect that I really find intriguing. I want to be able to text my friends quickly and easily, all at once, to let them know what I’m up to. It would be great for spontaneous weekend activities – “we’re going to go to the zoo this afternoon – join us at 2:00!”

Friends I’d like to get set up on Twitter:
Stephanie (of course)
Dan
Douglas
Amy (although that could be dangerous; she’d twitter all day long)
JonwithTyres
MJ
My sister – how could I forget her on this list? I miss her a lot.
Cate

Anyway, here is me on Twitter.

Twitter Bird
Twitter Bird

2022-03-16 Update:
Who could have imagined a “seemingly frivolous web communication tool” would cause an attack on the US capitol and almost destroy democracy in 2021?
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Rumor: Katamari for Wii?

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The rumor is flying on all the gaming sites out there on the interweb tubes, but the article has been pulled from the original source:
Beautiful Katamari is set to be released in the USA on October 17th for $39.99 on the PS3 (with SIXAXIS support) and XBOX 360. The Wii version will arrive shortly after on November 14th on the Wii for $29.99.
God, I hope that’s true – that would tip me off of my current “which platform to get next?” dilemma over into getting a Wii.

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Good Disguises

Me to a co-worker: “But would you expect me to have a mustache and goatee? No – that’s why it’s a good disguise!”

Commie Disquise
Commie Disquise
2022-03-16 Update:
Why did it take me so long to deal with my gender issues? I do not know.
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Steph Sold Her House Mix

Douglas made me this mix, in celebration of selling my house.
The Creeps – Camile Jones Vs. Fedde Le Grande
She’s My Man – Scissor Sisters
Miracle – Cascada
By The Way – Jenna Drey
Glamourous – Fergie feat. Ludacris
She’s Madonna – Robbie Williams
Love Today – Mika
Take It – Tom Novay and Lima
Girlfriend – Avril Lavigne
Minimal – Pet Shop Boys
Dare Me – Junior Jack
Lil’ Star – Kelis feat. Ceelo
Ruby – Kaiser Chiefs
This Ain’t a Scene, It’s An Arms Race – Fall Out Boy
Read My Mind – The Killers
Standing in The Way of Control – The Gossip
New Shoes – Paolo Nutini
Lost Without U – Robin Thicke
So Not Over You – Simply Red
I Need to Wake Up – Melissa Etheridge

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Evite vs. Upcoming.Org

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Last year in February, I was bothered by how unfortunate Friendster had become, and I mentioned somewhere in there that they (and other social networking sites) needed to suck in functionality like evite, where you can send out party invitations to friends and get RSVPs online, be able to see who is and isn’t coming to an event.

I tend to use evite for all my party invitations, and it’s big with my friends as well. I like the RSVP features of it, especially, and that it’s fairly easy to put together an invitation. I also like that it creates a map to your location, so you don’t have to send out directions to everyone.

In Austin for SXSW, lots of the parties and events were planned using upcoming.org, which is an events planning site that’s pretty slick and interesting. It has a clean, easy to use interface (which is better than evite – evite is a little clunky to maneuver, slow loading, and way too hallmarky). It’s most obvious focus is as spot for announcing big public events. There are a few listed for Indianapolis, but I don’t think it’s taken off here they way it has in bigger cities. Austin seems to be very plugged into upcoming.org, as are cities in California and New York. Once you’re logged in and profiled on Upcoming.org, it gives you a list of public events that are going on near your zip code, which is cool.

The big difference between evite and upcoming.org is that evite has social networking capabilities – you can add people you know as friends, look at the events they’re going to, etc. It’s not quite MySpace + Evite, but it’s somewhat that direction. Upcoming also has features that let you add events to your google calendar and ical, and their integration with maps is much better than evite. It also lets you tag events with key words, so that other people can search for them, which is dandy.

But you can also plan and send invitations to private, invite only events on upcoming.org, which I did this morning for my Colts Bonfire event.

It seemed pretty interesting, but I’m bothered that my only way of having contacts is if they’re also a part of upcoming.org. I can’t keep my address book there. The other thing that bugs me is that I can’t see a list of people I invited to the event; I can only see if people are planning to attend or are “watching” the event.

So I don’t know if upcoming is a replacement for evite, but it is interesting, and a bit more fun to use.

UPDATE: Upcoming.org has a suggestion box for new features, and I visited there to suggest the things I mentioned above, and found other people already had entered them, and I had the ability to give a “thumbs up” on their suggestion. COOL.

2019 UPDATE: I think Evite is still around, but upcoming seems to have fallen by the wayside. Facebook has taken over event planning to a large extent. And there is Eventbrite for scheduling things where tickets are required.

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David Sedaris Exaggerates!

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The New Republic comes out with a world-rocking revelation: David Sedaris embellishes his humorous non-fiction memoirs.
Um, no shit, Sherlock. You needed to write an article to tell us this? He’s a humor writer. I sort of figured out he was gilding the lily on my own, thanks. As if any one person has that much funny shit just happen to them randomly. Think about it – is your life that funny? Is anyone’s? Of course he punches it up to make it more funny. It’s not a big deal. He’s not a frackin’ presidential biographer for crap’s sake. I hope that he keeps doing it – he makes me laugh my ass off.
Hell, I didn’t even think it was that big a deal when James Frey exaggerated, except that there were people who looked at his book as some sort of self-help inspirational piece. But even then, I hardly think that was Frey’s fault.

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